Goal: Move beyond surface-level interactions to create meaningful shared memories and stronger emotional bonds
Choose Activities Based on Shared Interests: Select experiences that align with topics you've discussed
- If they mentioned loving food: "Want to try that new restaurant you mentioned?"
- If they enjoy outdoors: "There's a great hiking trail I've been wanting to explore"
- If they're into culture: "The art museum has a new exhibit opening this weekend"
- Expected result: They're excited because it connects to their interests
Suggest Novel Experiences Together: Propose activities that are new for both of you
- "I've never been to a pottery class - want to try it together?"
- "There's a food festival downtown this weekend - should we check it out?"
- "I saw there's a beginner rock climbing session - interested in being beginners together?"
- Expected result: You both feel excited about the shared adventure
Plan Activities That Encourage Conversation: Choose experiences with natural talking opportunities
- Walking activities (hiking, museum visits, farmers markets)
- Seated activities with breaks (concerts with intermissions, cooking classes)
- Collaborative activities (escape rooms, volunteer work, group classes)
- Expected result: You have plenty of time to talk and get to know each other better
Create Photo-Worthy Moments: Document your experiences together
- Take photos during your activities (with their permission)
- Share the photos afterward: "Had such a great time today! Here are some pics"
- Expected result: You both have visual reminders of your positive time together
Follow Up About the Experience: Reference your shared activity in future conversations
- "I keep thinking about that amazing dessert we had at [restaurant]"
- "That hiking trail was perfect - I found another one we might like"
- "Thanks again for introducing me to [activity] - I've been wanting to do it again"
- Expected result: The shared experience becomes part of your ongoing friendship story
If they seem hesitant about new activities: Start with familiar activities they've mentioned enjoying before
If scheduling is difficult: Offer multiple options and let them choose what works best
If an activity doesn't go as planned: Focus on enjoying each other's company rather than the perfect experience
You'll know you're done when: You've created positive shared memories and feel more comfortable together
- You've spent time together outside your original meeting context
- You have inside jokes or references from your shared experiences
- You both reference your activities in future conversations
- You feel more relaxed and natural around each other
Ready for next step? You've built a foundation of shared experiences and are ready to deepen emotional intimacy through vulnerability