Goal: Create balanced conversations by sharing your experiences in ways that build connection and invite further dialogue
Use the "Me Too" Connection: When someone shares an experience, connect with a similar story of your own
- Them: "I love trying new restaurants."
- You: "Me too! I actually discovered this amazing Thai place last week. The pad thai was incredible. What's the best dish you've tried recently?"
- Expected result: You've shared, connected, and redirected back to them
Master the 2-Sentence Share: Keep your personal stories to exactly 2 sentences, then ask a question
- "I had a similar experience when I moved here. It took me months to find my favorite coffee shop. How long have you been exploring the area?"
- Expected result: You share without dominating, and keep the conversation flowing
Practice Vulnerable but Light Sharing: Share small challenges or learning moments that others can relate to
- "I'm still figuring out this whole work-from-home thing. Some days I'm super productive, others I get distracted by everything. How do you stay focused?"
- Expected result: People feel comfortable sharing their own struggles and experiences
Use the "Bridge and Bounce" Technique: Share something about yourself, then immediately bounce back to them
- "I'm originally from Seattle, so I'm still getting used to this weather. Where are you from originally?"
- "I work in marketing, which keeps me busy but I love the creativity. What do you do for work?"
- Expected result: Natural reciprocal sharing that builds mutual understanding
If you're sharing too much: Set a mental timer for 20 seconds max, then ask a question
If you can't think of what to share: Default to "That's interesting, I've never thought about it that way. Tell me more."
If your story seems to kill the conversation: Quickly pivot with "But enough about me - what about you?"
You'll know you're done when: You can share personal information that enhances rather than dominates conversations
- You can use "Me Too" connections naturally in 3 different conversations
- You've practiced keeping personal shares to exactly 2 sentences
- You can share something vulnerable but light without over-sharing
- You automatically "bridge and bounce" back to the other person after sharing
Ready for next step? You now know how to contribute to conversations effectively - next you'll learn to adapt your approach for different social situations.