Goal: Develop the inner strength and self-assurance that makes you less likely to be targeted by bullies
Practice Confident Body Language Daily: Stand tall with shoulders back, make eye contact when speaking, and keep your head up when walking
- Expected result: You'll appear more self-assured and less vulnerable to potential bullies
Join One Activity You Genuinely Enjoy: Sign up for a club, sport, or hobby that interests you within the next week
- Expected result: You'll meet like-minded peers and build skills that boost your self-esteem
Set Three Small, Achievable Goals: Write down three things you can accomplish this week (like completing homework early, helping a classmate, or learning a new skill)
- Expected result: Each completed goal will build your sense of accomplishment and confidence
Practice the "Calm Response" Technique: When someone says something mean, take a deep breath, count to three, and respond calmly instead of reacting emotionally
- Expected result: You'll maintain control and show bullies they can't easily upset you
Use Positive Self-Talk: Replace negative thoughts like "I'm weird" with positive ones like "I'm unique and that's okay"
- Expected result: Your internal confidence will grow and show in your external behavior
If you feel too nervous to join activities: Start with one-time events or volunteer opportunities before committing to ongoing activities
If confident body language feels fake: Practice in front of a mirror for 5 minutes daily until it becomes natural
If negative self-talk persists: Write down three things you're good at and read them every morning
You'll know you're done when: You naturally carry yourself with confidence and feel more secure in social situations
- You can maintain eye contact during conversations without feeling uncomfortable
- You've joined at least one activity and attended three sessions
- You can name three personal strengths without hesitation
- You stay calm when someone tries to provoke you
- Other students notice your increased confidence (they may compliment you or treat you with more respect)
Ready for next step? With your confidence foundation in place, you're ready to build the social connections that will provide additional protection and support.