Goal: Learn to respond confidently and effectively when confronted by bullying behavior
Master the "Calm and Clear" Response: When someone says something mean, take a deep breath, look them in the eye, and say "That's not okay" or "I don't appreciate that" in a steady voice
- Expected result: You'll show strength without escalating the situation
Practice the "Broken Record" Technique: Repeat your boundary statement 2-3 times if they continue ("I said that's not okay" / "I already told you to stop")
- Expected result: Most bullies will give up when they see you won't be intimidated
Use Strategic Humor: If someone makes fun of you, respond with light humor that doesn't put anyone down ("Yeah, I'm pretty unique" or "Thanks for noticing")
- Expected result: You'll defuse tension and show you can't be easily upset
Perfect Your "Walk Away" Exit: After stating your boundary, turn and walk away confidently - don't run, don't look back, just leave with purpose
- Expected result: You'll maintain dignity while removing yourself from the situation
Practice the "Information Diet": Don't share personal information that could be used against you, and don't react emotionally to insults
- Expected result: Bullies will have less ammunition and lose interest in targeting you
Use the "Redirect and Report" Strategy: If verbal responses don't work, redirect the conversation ("We should focus on the assignment") then report to an adult later
- Expected result: You'll handle the immediate situation while ensuring proper follow-up
If your voice shakes when confronting bullies: Practice your responses in front of a mirror daily until they become automatic
If you freeze up in the moment: Prepare 3 simple phrases beforehand ("Stop," "That's not okay," "I'm walking away now") and practice them
If bullies escalate after your assertive response: Immediately seek help from the nearest adult - assertiveness doesn't mean handling dangerous situations alone
You'll know you're done when: You can respond to mean comments or behavior with confidence and composure
- You can make eye contact and speak clearly when setting boundaries
- You've successfully used the "broken record" technique at least twice
- You can walk away from confrontations without feeling defeated
- You stay calm instead of getting visibly upset when provoked
- Other students notice that you don't react emotionally to teasing anymore
Ready for next step? With assertive communication skills mastered, you're ready to learn how to position yourself strategically in school environments to avoid high-risk situations.